Sooo, uh, where are you going? How are you getting there? Do you have a plan of action?
Are you like a dog chasing the wheel of a car who has no idea what he’d do if he actually caught the car? Or are you like a cat stalking a mouse waiting patiently, developing a plan and determining the right moment to strike?
Unfortunately, I think too many of us are more like the dog than we’d like to admit. We see an immediate objective and blindly chase after it without a strategy… heck we may not even know why we’re chasing after it, probably just because it seemed like a good idea at the time.
That may work for a while but eventually one of two things is likely to happen.
A: We’ll find ourselves becoming frustrated as we chase car after car after car and yet never seem to catch it.
B: We might actually catch hold of that wheel and find that we’ve bitten off more than we can chew without a plan for how to swallow.
Either way, even if we love the thrill of the chase, we’ll never find a sense of satisfaction in our lives.
But, YOU, my uncommonly fabulous friend, you will avoid such a pitfall because, although your goals are lofty, you have a strategy for getting there, right!? Of course you do!
Now I’ll bet you think that this is part where I remind you to set realistic goals and create milestones for success and all that jazz that you’ve heard before… well I hate to disappoint, but not this time.
Today I’m challenging you to ask yourself a few different questions that I hope will help keep you focused and on track as you move towards your end game and catch that wheel!
5. Does my goal need to be re-evaluated? Throughout the journey of life we encounter many twists, turns and obstacles. If all goes right, we come out on the other side of those challenges with a slightly new perspective on life. We’ve gained new information, we’ve had new experiences and as a result we may need to set new goals. Or we may have met one of our old goals in the midst of taking on one of life’s challenges, in which case it is definitely time to re-evaluate your goals and set new ones. The key is to always take time to ensure that your goals are aligned with the vision you have for your life.
4. Do I have a reliable sounding board? True story….I was going to BE America’s Next Top Model. No seriously, I’d put a tape together and mailed it in and obviously that had gotten lost in the mail since they never responded to me so I figured I was just going to have to go to every audition within flying distance until they recognized that I was ANTM. I had my strategy laid out, I’d done some research on fashion, I’d practiced smiling with my eyes and I’d determined how much it was going to cost me to fly to every audition site for that season’s cycle. I had it all written out, charted and graphed. Now I’m very close to my folks and one of the biggest Daddy’s girls you’ll want to meet so I was explaining to my dad the whole strategy for how I was going to get to and make it through the audition and then beat the other girls in the house and when I was done he looked me dead in they and said, “Baby girl, that’s a great plan, you got the details worked out and you know I’ve always told you that you can do anything you put your mind to… but, sweetheart, your butt is just TOO BIG!!!!” And then he hit the floor laughing.
Ya’ll know I was mad… and indignant… you can’t even imagine the look on my face… but then as he stopped laughing he got a bit more serious and asked me why I was so pressed to be ANTM. He asked me to take three days to evaluate that goal and determine how that fit into the bigger picture I had for my life. And as this was after the days of Tocarra I was asked to consider not so much the size of my butt but how an experience like that would impact my overall mental, emotional and physical health. So I did my evaluation and needless to say America’s Next Top Model I am not… but don’t ever count ya girl out! lol.
But seriously, the point is, I’m glad to have had a reliable sounding board to help me evaluate that goal… and all my others for that matter.
3. Have I enlisted the right help? Nobody has gotten to where they are by themselves. So whatever your goal may be and where ever you might be in working towards that goal try to find a mentor. There are all sorts of people out there with the wisdom and experience to help make it easier for you to reach your own goals so don’t be afraid to ask around. Scour LinkedIn or FB. Go to networking events, send an email most people are more approachable than you think. And don’t forget to lean on your circle. Your friends and family have a host of skills and talents that you might be able to utilize as you work towards your goals and if you team up with them perhaps you can both reach your goals together and that much faster.
2. Am I committing the right resources? Nothing worth having comes easy. Nor is it handed to you. That means that when it comes to reaching your goals, you’re going to have to commit certain things. That may be time, money, energy… in all likelihood it will require all three. You have to do extensive research so hit the library or shadow someone who is already doing what you want to do. You’ll probably have to practice, practice, practice so get up and get at it.
1. Is this a goal I’m sure I want to commit to? There are all kinds of things in life we might want to do but we can’t do them all. So when setting your goals be sure to prioritize them and recognize the effort it will require to reach that goal. Then ask yourself if you’re really ready to give 100% to reach that goal. If not, its ok to give yourself permission to give it up and let it go. Trust me, at the end of the day, you’ll be much happier for it.
So tell us, what are your goals?
What are some of the things you take into consideration when setting a goal?
Have you ever had to let go of a goal in favor of something better? What was it you gave up and what was the better goal?